I don’t believe in marriage

I love God but I don’t believe in marriage. Yes I’ve had certain experiences at home that may I’ve shaped it but I feel like I’m called to a life of celibacy. Is that okay?

 

There are two things here. One is you believing that you have been called to a life of celibacy and the second is not believing in the marriage institution. I’ll address the latter first.

Fear or bad experiences are never reason enough to make life long decisions. If you want to base decisions on something, it must be God’s word. That is how a Christian shapes her life. If your reason is the fact that you’ve seen marriages go wrong then you are exalting the knowledge of the world above the knowledge of God and trying to trick yourself that it is God’s will for you to be single when it actual fact, you are just afraid of marriage.

Remember, you’re a vessel of love. God’s love is shed abroad in your heart by his spirit and perfect love casts out fear.

 

The next thing I will talk about is being called into a life of celibacy. 1 Cor 7 is one of my favourite chapters in the bible, it reminds me that Christ not marriage defines our lives.

1Co 7:25  Now concerning virgins: I have no commandment from the Lord; yet I give judgment as one whom the Lord in His mercy has made trustworthy.

1Co 7:26  I suppose therefore that this is good because of the present distress—that it is good for a man to remain as he is:

1Co 7:28  But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.

1Co 7:32  But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord.

1Co 7:33  But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife.

1Co 7:34  There is[a] a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.

1Co 7:35  And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction.

 

1Co 7:36  But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry.

 

Marriage is a choice. God never ‘forbade’ anyone to marry in bible times. It is not a compulsory choice, but one that must be guided by the word and prayer. If you choose to remain single for the cause of the gospel, it would be a choice. One that God can empower you to make. But the bible’s solution to sexual immorality is marriage.

1Co 7:2  Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.

 

 

 

 

 

 

1Ti 4:1

Now the Spirit expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons,

1Ti 4:2  speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron,

1Ti 4:3  forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth.

1Ti 4:4  For every creature of God is good, and nothing is to be refused if it is received with thanksgiving;

1Ti 4:5  for it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.

 

2 Comment

  1. Joss says: Reply

    Hi… .so what do you do when you are dating someone who doesn’t want to get married because of his experiences while growing up with his parents?

    1. Laju Iren says: Reply

      Hi Joss, wow. You can’t convince a man to marry you. He has to believe in marriage himself and then propose. Please ask him to read:’Misconceptions single people have about marriage,’ ‘I don’t believe in marriage’ here on lajuiren.com. But please send me an email at lajuiren@gmail.com

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